What's in your Toolbox?

Have you ever reacted to a situation in the spur of the moment to then realize that instead of solving the problem quickly, you just seemed to make a bigger mess? Or the moment where you did nothing because you had no idea at all what to do? Let’s take a moment to look into the behaviours of the subconscious mind. When a situation occurs and we have a split second to react or respond, our mind reaches into an invisible toolbox that holds all the tools that we have learned through life. The toolbox has inbuilt compartments or sections to store tools in (or may remain empty if never stocked). Sections will include family, relationships, work life, parenting and a whole number of drawers and compartments that are accessed from time to time (driving, shopping, school etc).

Humans were made to be highly relational. Original design was for babies to be born and raised in a family. We learn by imitation. That goes for relationships too. Sometimes when we learn something, it’s like a shiny new tool in our tool box. Other times we inherit an old broken tool. If all I received from my parents was a hammer, then I will approach every situation looking at what I can use my hammer for. Too bad if something needs to be cut down to size… It doesn’t matter how diligently I use my hammer to cut that thing down, it’s not going to do a very good job and will probably leave a mess. Too many of us think that we can float our way through life and as long as we love Jesus then everything will be alright. I’m curious as to how that’s working out for you…

Building a house takes more than a hammer. Building a relationship takes more than love. Love should be your power, your energy source, but you will still need a range of tools to build an effective relationship. Tools like trust, assertiveness, patience, understanding, romance and negotiation are just a few that you will need. If you didn’t get these from your parents or significant role models in your life, then there are trained counsellors and coaches that can help you, but you can also go straight to the SOURCE. Take a moment and ask your Heavenly Father for more tools for your toolbox. If your earthly parents delight in giving you good gifts, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to you!!